Continuing from last week’s post looking at what Moments are, this time I want to address the second part of the definition, which was that a Moment is something of significance or value.
I spoke recently on an Instagram post about how memories seem to work - we very rarely remember whole days, but instead recall moments, which must mean that there was something important enough for us to take notice and store them. They must resonate with something about our outlook or beliefs for them to register with our conscious mind and our senses.
And this becomes the key to using the Moments Journal in a way that works for you. Rather than simply recording moments or memories each day as events, things you did, or things that happened, if you can identify why you’re remembering them - what makes them significant - they have so much more power and will make for stronger memories that you can be grateful for.
This is how I came to start labelling my moments according to my values and the feelings that I wanted to have about my life. By putting the moments into categories, those cups became fuller and fuller, those feelings became more real, and I started to find more of the things that are important to me. And if they weren’t there, I could do something about it to seek them out.
After all, why wouldn’t you want to live a life aligned with what matters to you? Why wouldn’t you want to appreciate all the amazing experiences you have? Why wouldn’t you want to be able to call in more of the things you want to have and do, and more of the feelings you want to feel, simply by being more mindful of where they’re already happening?
Oh yes, this is where things get really powerful. Whether you call it the law of attraction, manifestation, or something else, those old clichés are true.
Energy flows where your attention goes
What you focus on you attract
So if you can manage to focus on even just a few very small good moments from a day that overall seemed awful, if you give your attention to the moments that you want to remember because they made you feel the way you want to feel, or they represented an important quality you want to embody, then the energy you cultivate will be of the same frequency and will lift you up instead of dragging you down.
Some of this might sound quite out there and ‘woo woo’ to some of you, and I’ll be honest, I’ve been dubious about the power of manifestation and whether purely a shift of mindset and focus can change your life, but based on the evidence I’ve been gathering in my own Moments Journal, I’d have to say I’m starting to believe.
I use a selection of different sub-titles for the moments I write about in my journal, some of them I use all the time, and some I swap and change depending on areas I want to give a bit more focus. These categories all relate to values that are important to me, qualities that I want to embody personally, or that I want to feel more of or call in.
For example, I always write down a moment that I’m proud of - I think it’s really important to acknowledge successes of all kinds, whether that means it was an achievement to get up and get dressed that day, or if I managed to finish an important work project.
A sense of achievement and satisfaction in what I do has mattered to me for a long time, but it was only after leaving a number of jobs where I felt unfulfilled, and experiencing the stress and depression this caused, that I recognised the fact that I wanted to feel proud of myself for something - anything - at the end of the day. When mental health and self-esteem take knocks like that over a long period of time, it can be incredibly tough to rebuild your confidence, and for me, one way of doing it has been to take notice of every kind of achievement, from the small moments to the joyous successes.
This is just one example, and I’ll talk more next time about how using the Moments Journal has changed my life, how I use it, and why I believe it works. But for now, let me reiterate what I said at the beginning:
Moments are the memories we keep because they strike a chord with something that is important to us, with significant values we hold, or feelings we savour. They’re the things that fill our hearts, give us a sparkle in our eyes when we talk about them, and that we crave more of. And when they’re things that are good for you, why shouldn’t you have more?
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